A Guide To Talking Puberty & Periods
Let’s be honest: talking about puberty and periods with your daughter is something that most dads prefer to leave to their partner or another signiﬁcant female in the family.
But by showing her that you’re comfortable talking about periods – and being there for her when she needs you – you can help boost her conﬁdence.
Here are some tips on talking puberty and periods – and general advice on how to raise a daughter for dads.
Open Up an Emotional Dialogue
Don’t let the ﬁrst time you discuss anything personal be when she starts her period. A top tip on how to raise a daughter for dads is to ask questions – and listen!
Just as you’d want to know what’s going on at school, ask her about her feelings. Fathers raising daughters will ﬁnd that this makes those period conversations much easier when the time comes.
Start Conversations Early
Having ‘the talk’ as a one-time conversation can overwhelm her with information, so address the subject in easy stages to help build your daughter’s knowledge.
Look for natural moments to talk – say, when watching an ad or ﬁlm or buying period products.
Fathers raising daughters often ﬁnd this kind of conversation uncomfortable, so try discussing periods where there’s less need for eye contact, such as in the car.
63% of people in the US believe we should speak openly about menstruation*
If you don’t know the answer to a question, it’s OK to admit there are holes in your knowledge. Say you’ll ﬁnd out the information she needs and get back to her – and make sure you do. You don’t want her to think you’re embarrassed or dodging the subject!
Mark the 'big moment' in a small way
When she does start her period, don’t make a big deal of it. Say something like, ''You may not want to talk to me about this now, but if you ever need anything, you only have to ask.''
Chances are she’ll roll her eyes and say, ''Oh Dad!'' but a few kind words can demonstrate that you’re there for her.
''Period-proof'' the bathroom!
Girls can get very embarrassed about being on their period, so on top of making sure that she has period products available, provide a lidded trash can (with a trash liner) so she doesn’t feel awkward disposing of used products.
Make sure you teach her the motto: Toss It – Don’t Flush It! Period products, or any other toiletries, shouldn’t be ﬂushed because doing so can cause blockages in the drainage system.
There are so many different types of pads (wings, no wings, day- time, night-time) and tampons (with or without applicator, plastic or cardboard) – not to mention period pants and menstrual cups!
Here’s what you need to know when deciding which period products she should use.
- Let her experiment and ﬁnd out what works best for her.
- It’s OK for her to use tampons, but most girls prefer to start with pads as they’re easier to use.
- Always Radiant Teen pads are a great wat to start - they are made with FlexFoam so they can be thin and flexible without skipping out on protection
- Help her ﬁnd the right-sized pad by using the Always My Fit chart.
Watch this video to understand what actually happens during a period and share it with your daughter
Test your (and her) knowledge by taking our Puberty & Period Myths Busted Quiz together