When girls start puberty, they may feel too shy or embarrassed to talk about the changes they're going through – even if they're desperate to share their feelings or ask questions. It's important to let your daughter know that you're always available to chat and to actively create opportunities that help get discussions started.
However, there may be times when your mother and daughter relationship is strained and she simply won't want to discuss certain things with you. Try not to take it too personally (remember, your daughter's emotions are in flux at the moment). Rather, encourage her to reach out to other adults – her other parent, grandparents, stepparents, carers, teachers – should she need to talk about growing up with someone other than you. Reassure her that your feelings won't be hurt (even if, truth be told, they are a little bit), because what you really want is for her to get the support that she needs.
Here's a quick primer aimed at helping you talk to your daughter about expanding her support system. Below you'll find useful topics and practical information that you can use as a loose “script” or just as a conversation starter.